How to give oral sex to a woman? Learn 13 surprising techniques

We already know that most people like oral sex. But do you know how to give female oral sex?

Oral sex on women is also called cunnilingus, which means giving pleasure to a woman through mouth movements on her vulva.

Learning how to perform good cunnilingus is one of the most difficult sexual feats a person can perform, as there are many more variations in what works for them than for them.

However, we have some suggestions that will improve a person's abilities to perform oral sex on a woman.

1. First of all, don't stress

In recent decades, there has been a lot of emphasis on the fact that oral sex is the key to female orgasm. This has put a lot of pressure on those who do it. And frankly, there are a lot of women who may or may not like cunnilingus.

So lower your expectations, relax a little and have fun. It's one of those sexual acts that has more to do with the journey than the destination.

2. Have a real desire to have oral sex

We are in the 21st century, and all human beings, with equal rights, deserve a little oral sex.

If you're the one who doesn't like it, then you shouldn't expect to receive it, unless you're dating a woman who doesn't like receiving cunnilingus but enjoys giving a blowjob.

3. Leave the woman at ease

If she tends to be uncomfortable with reciprocity, take it slow.

Tell her that for the next half hour, you will be her love servant and that you will take care of all her sexual needs without thinking about yourself.

Make sure there is no possibility of interruption or distraction. And if she still can't stop worrying, tie her up (with her consent, of course) so she has no choice.

4. Prepare before having sex

How about taking a relaxing bath together first? This will create an “we have all the time in the world” atmosphere.

If you don't have a preference for pubic hair, don't add to her insecurity by giving her ultimatums or demands that she shave. On the contrary, express everything positively. Offer her to trim as a sexual game and be prepared to do the same.

Speaking of hair removal, the man who is going to perform oral sex on the woman should check the condition of the beard. Facial hair growth can be painful for your partner.

5. Choose the best position

If you're trying to induce a female orgasm through oral sex, it's likely to take a while. The most important thing is that you are both comfortable.

This probably means she will lie down on the bed, perhaps with a pillow under her hips, and you will lie between her legs. Or she sits in a comfortable chair while you kneel (a pillow under your knees also improves posture).

6. Do it seductively

Tie, nibble, suck, lick and kiss her mouth, breasts, belly, inner thighs, gradually approaching your ultimate goal, the vulva.

Gently spread the woman's legs apart while her fingers get closer and closer. Run your hands lightly over the vulva and pubic hair (if any). Place your arms under her thighs or buttocks to bring her closer to you. Work all over the vulva (but never blow into the holes - it's dangerous).

When she grips the sheets, moans or arches her back, you know she's doing great.

And when she holds your head in her hands, it usually means she's about to orgasm.

7. Get to the heart of the matter

When it comes to tongue time, start by kissing the vulva. Bury her face. Use your nose as a stimulation tool (this is a good strategic move when your tongue needs a break).

Then wet everything with a wide, flat, soft tongue. Keep your jaw relaxed and lick slowly from the vaginal opening to the clitoris. Lick the center, lick up and down and also go from side to side.

Run your tongue between the inner and outer lips, first on one side and then on the other. Or put her vaginal lips in your mouth and suck on them.

8. Push the tongue

Wait until she pulls you away and physically begs you to continue, before proceeding with her tongue.

During slow and long movements of the tongue, begin to insert it through the vaginal opening. Remember that most of the vagina's nerve endings are in the outer third, so you don't have to stretch too far to get inside. Just wrap your tongue around the opening and push in and out.

If she seems like she wants a little more in the way of penetration, push in a finger or two while your tongue continues to stick out. Bring your fingers in and out in short but firm strokes, or keep them in, rubbing against the G-spot. If you can, synchronize your tongue and fingers.

9. Make contact with the clitoris

The clitoris is very sensitive, so be gentle. Some women never desire direct clitoral stimulation, while others just can't seem to get enough, always wanting more.

Remember, the more you tease her and the more excited she becomes, the more she will be able to withstand the stimulation. Keep your licking very light until she asks for harder.

Ultimately, she'll probably want you to continue once you find something that works.

For specific tongue movements that target the clitoris, try these:

• Lick it in circles, from top to bottom, then left to right.
• Try tracing the alphabet on your clitoris with your tongue if that helps you stay focused.

As with the labia, you can also suck on the clitoris. Pull it into your mouth, suck and lick gently.

10. Try advanced oral sex techniques

Whether you're covering the entire vulva area or licking the clitoris, anything you can do with your fingers can be tried with your tongue.

Keep your tongue still and slightly rigid and shake your head back and forth.

Nibble... carefully.

Experience deep moans while you're down there - the resulting vibration can have a pleasant effect. Plus, you'll convey how happy you are to be doing this for her.

And don't forget that your fingers can do more than just penetrate. Plunge them into her mouth. Play with her lips while your tongue is elsewhere. Pull your nipples gently or rub them in a circular motion.

But if you put your fingers in her anus, don't put them back in her vagina or mouth to avoid the risk of causing an infection.

11. Add accessories

Cunilingus can be difficult at times, and it's okay to turn to props for help.

Try a vibrator. There are different types on the market.

12. Feel the rhythm

The key to good cunnilingus is patience. In general (although we can't generalize), women tend to like firm pressure and repetitive movements.

You can increase the speed and pressure as she becomes more excited. But if she backs off, you should do the same. And when it groans, it's not necessarily a signal to accelerate. Feel the rhythm!

If you've found the rhythmic key to unlocking her orgasm, you can even go in the opposite direction during orgasm preparation: bring her almost there, then come back and repeat, so that when she finally reaches orgasm, this will be more intense.

13. Give a happy ending

Of course, all this oral attention will lead somewhere very good. But if not, don't be discouraged. While some women enjoy getting off on oral sex, others prefer cunnilingus as foreplay.