I can't maintain a relationship - the reasons for this

Are you a man trying to find love? Have you been in the game for a while? Do things start out fine with the women you know, only to fall apart after a few dates?

If the answer is yes, in this article you will understand the possible reasons that lead women to break up with you.

The most frequent complaint from men goes something like this: "For some reason, she just didn't want to go ahead with things." Sound familiar to you?

When you get rejected often, rejection has a way of taking its toll. Some men are so frustrated that they forgo all future dating possibilities, choosing to isolate themselves.

Maybe you've thought, "Why bother with this bullshit? It's better to be alone. Meeting someone is not in the plans for me."

If that's what you think, there's a good chance you're questioning your looks as a factor in women breaking up.

Well let me tell you brother - because someone needs to - your looks have nothing to do with it. Instead, your problem is probably related to how you're doing things. We're specifically talking about how women perceive you during the first few interactions.

Reasons why a girlfriend loses interest

So what is really going on? Why do women turn away from you so quickly after starting a relationship? And most importantly, what should you know about maintaining a relationship?

Obviously, the following list is not 100% accurate. But I can tell you, there are usually 8 specific behaviors that discourage women from keeping dating.

Some of the topics covered may seem obvious, others not so much. I encourage you to read them all to gain new insight. The list is not exhaustive, but the behaviors listed below represent reasons for ending a relationship. Check out:

1. You brag about your work, too much

You are amazing at your work and generate results that prove it. Being competitive, you love to talk about your accomplishments.

Many guys like to channel their inner alpha by bragging about their professional accomplishments. For some men, this is like keeping score.

But here's the problem - if you talk a lot about work on dates, the woman you're with will end up looking for a date. The hard truth is, she doesn't want to hear you forever chattering about your work and how good you are.

Instead, she prefers you to talk about topics of mutual interest. It could be anything; from movies to sports. The goal is to find something, anything to talk about other than your work.

How about asking more about her life? What does she like? What holds your attention? Show that you are interested in her and not just in yourself.

2. You are a clingy person in a relationship

This is not a nice thing to talk about, but it simply should be mentioned. Nobody likes clingy people, especially women who are just getting to know a man.

There's no reason to send text messages multiple times throughout the day just to give "air of grace". And you're not helping yourself by asking, "Is everything okay?" if she doesn't come talk to you every night.

You need to trust yourself and the universe that if she likes you, things will happen organically. But if you're always looking for compliments or getting paranoid, know that it's pushing you away.

Think about it. Do you like clingy women? If the answer is no, why the hell would you think she would want to be with a codependent man? It's time to improve your self-confidence.

3. Involves your mother a lot

When you go out on a date, do you talk a lot about your mother? Does she pop in and out of conversations for no specific reason? Have there ever been situations where your mom texted you when you went out with someone?

Maintaining some communication with at least one parent is a good thing. This demonstrates that you are a good son. Family is important to you and that can be attractive. There's nothing wrong with your mother being involved occasionally.

However, if it feels like your mother controls you like a puppet, that girl you're dating will notice. And the last thing she wants is a mama's boy.

Women like guys who are independent. That's not to say you should act like a distant, remote idiot. But it's to say that you have to show that you can stand on your own and make decisions on your own, without the mother's approval.

Makes sense?

4. You use alcohol as a means of interaction

Man, I really don't like having to list this here, because you might get the impression that alcohol is off limits for you. It's not necessarily that.

Instead, I'm talking about being "that guy" who regularly takes courage from drinking because you rely on it for social interaction.

Women like men who expose their vulnerable side. They don't want to be with someone who regularly needs alcohol to open up.

Yes, I know that we men are taught not to talk about our feelings. It's one of the main reasons so many of us are secretly depressed.

That said, you should be fine with letting your guard down occasionally. But if the only way to do that is with a glass of whiskey or a can of beer, you might be sending the wrong message.

5. You keep asking for nudes

There's nothing wrong with wanting to look at her pictures. We are men - we were programmed to be visual. In today's world, gifs and videos are part of the landscape.

That said, understand that when you ask her to upload a photo of adult content, it's quite a surprise for the woman. When you request (or send) this type of photo, it gives the impression that you are only looking for sex.

Not that there's anything wrong with wanting a physical connection. But if you're really looking for a romantic bond, stop making those requests.

The current body of research tells us that people who receive certain types of photos share them with their friends. Don't just take my word for it. Instead, check out the Indiana University study in the United States on the subject.

And on some level, she probably knows that. She is aware that by sending something revealing, it can be shown to someone else. That's the last thing they want.

So if you are doing this, now is the time to stop. The only thing you're doing is pruning the relationship before it has a chance to grow.

6. You are very safe with money

When you go out on holidays, do you look for the cheapest places possible? When the bill comes, do you insist on splitting it in half every time, down to the last penny? Do you avoid social events because you don't want to spend money?

If you're doing this, you need to stop, immediately. That's because women don't like expensive cowhands.

That's not to say you should never split the dinner bill, or save if things are tight. But if the focus is always on money and you don't spend it, you risk losing your girlfriend. If I had a penny for every time a woman told me she ended the relationship for that reason, I would be rich—really.

The point is to use common sense here. The way the universe works is to give without the expectation of receiving. No, you shouldn't be a fool and pull out your wallet for everything. Just don't be "that guy" cheapskate.

7. Not having a purpose

This reason ends any relationship. The absence of purpose in life, goals and goals is a frequent reason for breakups.

If you're a man who's into the "let life take me" rhythm, know that women don't really appreciate that. It may be that some don't care if they don't have ambitions either, but most do.

When I say ambitions, I'm not talking about becoming the king of the world and making a lot of money. I'm talking about desires and chasing after them.

It can be anything in life, whether it's getting a promotion at work, studying English, learning to cook, volunteering in some social action... It doesn't matter what it is. You must know what you want and plan for it.

People who know where they want to go are more attractive. Even if you change plans along the way, it's okay. Just don't keep dancing to Zeca Pagodinho's music, letting life take you.

8. Talks bad about other people

This last point is probably obvious, but it's worth mentioning nonetheless. If you're constantly putting others down, including ex-girlfriends, co-workers, or other people in your life, it's a sign that you're not a nice person.

That doesn't mean you should be all Poliana and never complain about anything. We are all human and we have good days and bad days. But if you never have anything nice to say about others, what impression are you leaving on your partner?

Women think, "If he talks like that about [fill in the blank], what will he say about me when I'm not around?"

The goal is to find something to say that is kind about other people. You would be surprised how this changes your situation.

concluding

Here are the 8 honest reasons why you can't maintain a relationship. Hopefully, what has been shared here will light some light bulbs in your mind.

Remember, it's not about how you look. If that were the case, she wouldn't be talking to you in the first place.

And know that no one is perfect. It's okay to make mistakes, the real problem is when we don't learn from our mistakes. Don't compare yourself to other people, just compare yourself to yourself. So, seek to evolve and be a better man than you were yesterday.

I'm sure at some point you'll hit it off with someone special.